Family Road Trip

True to the past several weekends, I was on the road again, this time for family reasons. My brother and his wife, our three sisters and I drove a van to visit our sister Barbara and her family in Wisconsin. Barb has had lung cancer for the past two years. We ate together, laughed together, remembered our childhood together, told bad jokes and exaggerated family stories. The light in Barb’s eyes and the smile on her lips warmed our hearts.

It was a great bonding trip for our family and a great chance to share our love with her.

There are things you have to do in life to really understand what it’s all about, and one of them is taking time to share your life and your love with your family of origin. Especially when you live in different cities, states or countries. Especially as adults, when you have created your own families and led busy lives and connect in quick moments or too-short weekends together.

One of the many ways that I am blessed in my large family of siblings is that we have remained friends all these years. Yet, even with our closeness and even without fences to mend or relationships to repair, this crowded, 18-hour round trip in a van between Ohio and Wisconsin was a very special, healing time.

I came home tired and yet mentally, emotionally, spiritually and “heartfeltedly “refreshed from all the love, laughter and caring that took place.

Five Keys to Success in Teaching & Coaching

This week I taught a class at Muskingum, Principles of Physical Education. This is a class I taught throughout my four decade career and is a core class for undergraduates who want to become teachers and coachers. Since my retirement, I’ve been asked each year to teach one class session and I really look forward to it.

We talked about many things, chiefly the keys to success in teaching and coaching.

The capacity to love
You need to have genuine caring and love for students and players. You need to genuinely love what you teach and what you coach.

The capacity to learn
You need to learn from books, from other teachers, from other coaches, from experience, from the world. To do this, you must have passion and always keep an open mind.

The capacity to labor
Your ability to work hard and smart provides the real reward. This is where deep, enduring personal satisfaction occurs.

The capacity to laugh
You must be able to laugh at yourself and at the world. Try to make the day brighter for all those around you.

The capacity to leave
You must be able to face adversity, to grieve and not linger, to go on and be even better.

Besop’s Thought

I have been a fan of Aesop’s Fables for many years. As a result, I developed Besop’s Thoughts as they relate to basketball.

Coupled Courage

The Insight: I know I need to make some changes. The old coach who yells and screams just doesn’t get it today. If I am going to change, I need to really make a commitment.

The game has changed, the players have changed and society has changed. I need the courage to make the changes that are best for our program.

The Pep Talk: I need coupled courage. The first is to stand up and do what’s right and best for the team. The second is to give up the things I am doing now that seem to hold me back. What a challenge – to give up bad habits and then replace them with more positive ones.

Quote of the Week

inspired by the Nike China Think Tank

Cultural differences are obvious between China and the United States. China’s culture is based on the Tao, or the Way, and on Confucian philosophy, both of which are centered on harmony, peace and non-competitive involvement in sports.

Here is a quote by Confucius followed by an interpretation of that quote by Besop:

Confucius says, “They must change often who would be constant in happiness and wisdom.”

Besop says, “They must change often who would win the game.”


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